On a recent business trip traveling with a couple coworkers I shared a bit of my story. Seeing the woman I am today with the one I described it eventually it comes out…there’s a reason for what you went through. It made you stronger and the woman you are today.
I struggle with the statement…there’s are reason for everything.
It implies God had a hand in the tragedies of my life. That he is a manipulative ogre pulling my strings while he sits back and gloats with glee.
Sad to say I believed this view of God. Isn’t part of God’s will to suffer for him? Seems rather cruel and hard. Of course I learned this isn’t who he is. It was a lie I believed based on my life circumstances.
On the other hand there is always a reason. But it’s not what you think.
At some point in our lives there’s an event, the event created a lie, I then self-protect, others respond and it reproduces the event. It’s a vicious cycle, going round and round like a warped merry-go-round.
So there is a reason for everything, it’s just not what you think it is.
I based my whole life on the lies I believed about events in my life. From abandonment, sexual abuse and domestic violence. Each event created a lie that struck at the core of who I am. From the events I believed the lie of rejection, self-hatred, never good enough, invisible, just to name a few. Out of the lies I protected myself through disconnection, rejection, numbing, and perfection, just to name a few. When the people around me responded, it recreated the events in my life. Which created more lies…and so you see my merry-go-round.
Stop the world I want to get off.
The event becomes an idol which is the definition of a stronghold. We can’t change what happened to us, we can, however, change the lie, the present and the future. We can break the cycle by identifying the lie we believed about the event and find the truth.
“You will know the truth and the truth will set you free” (John 8:32 NLT). The truth is Jesus. He is the one who sets us free. He is absolute truth. His heart’s desire for us is to find freedom.
According to the Basic Sozo Training, “There is always a source and a point in time when something happened that set into motion a course that ends up with an individual in torment, pain, and sin. It may be difficult to uncover, but it is always there. God knows the point in time of the wound, lie or sin. He knows the reason or cause. God is willing to help us find it.”
The question is…are you ready to start the journey to discovering your freedom and new life?